When you’re ready to file for divorce, you contact a divorce lawyer. But who’s there to help you in the time before you file, when you’re not sure if a divorce is really what you want? Luckily, there is someone you can go to for guidance during this difficult time in your life: a divorce coach.
A Minnesota divorce coach is there to help you consider the emotional and practical aspects of your divorce, not just the legal implications. Pre-divorce planning can be helpful if you want to learn about how your finances will be affected by divorce, but it doesn’t always address the fears, concerns, and emotional turmoil you may be experiencing if you’re considering a divorce. That’s why a divorce coach is so helpful. She will offer tips for exploring the mental and emotional aspects of this difficult decision and help you reach a cathartic conclusion, whether that means filing for divorce or mending your marriage.
Here are the goals your divorce coach has for you, even before your first meeting.
Identify the Roadblocks Between You and A Divorce
Our brains tend to take the path of least resistance even if it will be more damaging to us in the long run. It’s important to remember that even if you feel stuck in your marriage, you’ve always got options. Retrain your brain to consider the alternatives instead of assuming you’re doomed to an unhappy relationship for the rest of your life.
Your divorce coach wants you to think of your current obstacles as lifeless as quicksand and more as road construction. You may have to reroute, but you’ll reach your goals sooner than you think. What roadblocks are in your way, and how can you break through those barriers to get to where you really want to be in life?
Clearly Visualize Your Life After Divorce
Visualization is one of the best mental tools you can use to get your life from point A to point B. A divorce coach will help you learn how to visualize all the happiness and relief you’ll experience once your divorce is finalized. The reality is that many people who are considering divorce will ultimately follow through with it. So, when you visualize the life you’ll lead after your divorce, what are you most excited for? For example, many people look forward to no longer fighting with their partner every day. Others want to start a new hobby or travel more. You’ll be more likely to take the leap and get a divorce when you can look forward to starting the next phase of your life.
Create A Path to Your Healthy and Successful Divorce
You understand point A and you can look forward to point B. How do you bridge the gap between the two? This final goal will give you the last pieces of information you need before you file for divorce. If your spouse is emotionally or financially abusive, you’ll need to figure out how to take care of your short-term needs and get copies of financial documents. If you have children, you’ll have to determine how you would like to co-parent until the divorce is finalized. Once you’ve considered and addressed all these factors, you’ll have outlined your path to divorce.
An Edina divorce lawyer is a great person to have on your team once you file for divorce, but a divorce coach can help you put in the mental and emotional work beforehand. For the best of both worlds, work with Beth Barbosa. Beth is both a family law attorney and a divorce coach, so she sees both the legal and personal aspects of the process. Whether your divorce is amicable or contentious, you’re bound to have serious feelings that need to be worked through. Beth’s divorce coaching will help you find peace and start your post-divorce life off on the right foot. Contact Beth by calling (612) 564-0137 to set up your first coaching appointment.