Certified Life Coach

I introduce the E (Event) + R (Response) = O (Outcome.  I teach them that they need to take 100% responsibility for their actions.  I now have the saying that you are 100% responsible for 50% of the relationship.  This usually gets people’s attention.

I ask clients to write down how they visualize their life five years down the road after the divorce.  I have learned that if I can understand their vision/goals for their life five years after the divorce, I can help them reach their vision by creating a settlement that meets their goals.

I introduce to them to the concept of the Law of Attraction and have them watch the Secret.  This concept is important in my representation of clients because they often will have negative thoughts about their life, how they got there, their spouse etc.  Not every client buys the concept when I tell them about it, but once they watch the movie and see that the Law of Attraction is actually grounded in science, many clients gravitate to the concept.  I have them use the Law of Attraction before we head to trial or any court hearing.  This helps them get out of the negative self-limiting thoughts and into positive self-growth thoughts.

I have clients set goals for and create affirmations around those goals.  These goals are really focused on the divorce proceeding.  I find this helpful for clients because the divorce process can be daunting and long.  If my clients have short-term goals and action steps, this helps them get through the proceeding.  These goals can be as simple as “I will obtain a new job by June 15, 2021.” Or “I will find a realtor to sell our home by January 30, 2021.” I then have them create five small action steps on how they will meet this immediate goal.

I introduce the concept of asking to my clients.  When they are setting goals, I have them ask others to help them meet their goal.

I have my clients acknowledge to themselves that they will meet their goals. This is powerful for many of my clients who are going through a divorce.  Giving themselves self-appreciation empowers them especially during a time where they feel powerless.

Finally, I give a copy of Jack’s book the Success Principles to some of my clients that I know will benefit from it.  And, I have it on my resource page.